what is the meaning of life

The True Birth Of Tragedy

The true birth of tragedy

I have been reading a lot of and about Friedrich Nitzsche lately. It all began when I read his first book The Birth of Tragedy. I was instantly intrigued by this man’s ideas and his life. I honestly saw a lot of myself in him. I had to learn more.

Friedrich Nitzsche was a german philosopher and author who lived in the late 1800’s. He will forever be remembered as one of the most influential existential thinkers of all time. He was a brilliant man but was plagued with a life of ill health and social isolation. His obsessions, as well as his reclusiveness, led to him eventually going mad and being institutionalized. He died at the young age of 55 of a stroke. His mind and his body just could not take any more turmoil.

How does someone so brilliant end up this way?

You would think that if someone was so smart they would be able to figure out how to find peace and happiness. You would think that being smarter would help you find meaning and purpose in your life. But it turns out that we can’t think our way into happiness. We can’t think our way into meaning. Our minds are amazing but there are some answers they are just unable to find.

One of the key elements of Nietzsche’s work was his statement that “God is dead.” He believed that religion was keeping people from greatness. It was the fault of religion that kept people suffering and the only way to be truly free was to let go of the idea of God and find meaning elsewhere. He looked to art first and that was the subject of his book The Birth Of Tragedy.

He believed true art, especially music, could give man meaning. It brought out the part of us that is truly human and thus could deliver us some peace of mind. I think we all know what he means. Music touches us on such a deep level. And seeing music live can spark emotions we thought we had buried deep. It brings us to tears, it brings our emotions to the forefront and it makes us feel alive. That is why music is so amazing to us.

But is that enough?

For Nietzsche, it wasn’t. Musically induced emotion is fleeting. It is only present for a moment and then it is gone. If we are living for this type of emotion, we will spend our lives chasing it. Music can become our new drug. We are constantly trying to relive a fond memory we had at a concert or the first time we heard our favorite song. It is a never-ending search for a feeling of comfort and meaning that even when we do rediscover it, it is gone again just as quickly as it came back.

I love music. I believe the world needs music. It can remind us of what it is to be human and it can make us feel alive. But music alone is not enough to bring us true peace. If what we are searching for is happiness in life then what we really seek is contentment. And as long as we are chasing fleeting emotions, we will never find the contentment that we crave.

We will never truly find what we are looking for in art, music, food, alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, spending, vacations, etc. The list goes on and on. Some of these things can be great but when we put our whole happiness on these things, they will fail us every time. We will never have enough and we will always be left wanting more. That is by definition discontentment. The opposite of what we truly seek.

So where do we find contentment?

Some people won’t like my answer to this, but I have found there is truly only one way to find contentment. That is to give up. Surrender. Stop trying to do everything on your own. We have to stop relying on our own power and turn to a power greater than us. It is the only way we can truly be free and find the purpose and joy that we so crave in this life.

I know a lot of people don’t want to hear that God is the answer. But He is. And here is the thing, you can call Him whatever you want to call him. Call Him the Universe if that makes you feel better. Call Him love. Call Him a Her. I don’t care what you call the power, you just have to call the power.

Surrendering to a power greater than us is the key. When we can truly let go of our self-will, we become free. Our burdens are lifted. We find we are not alone in this life and that our life has real meaning. To know there is a power that is in control, who has a plan, and who loves us enough to include us in that plan, that right there is the meaning of life.

Nietzsche spent his whole life running from God and looking for answers within himself. He believed man had the power to define his own meaning and find worth in his own greatness. And although many of his writings can be quite inspiring, did any of this actually work for him?

Did Nietzsche ever find what he was looking for?

The answer is no, he never did. He never found true peace and meaning. He went insane trying to do it all on his own. And he died at a young age completely defeated and alone. And while he was alive, he was so wrapped up in self-reliance that he missed many of the joys in life. He never had many friends. He lived in isolation his whole life. He dated one girl briefly, but that didn’t last and he gave up completely on love. It’s an incredibly sad story of a man separated from God, by choice, and suffering because of that choice.

I don’t know about you, but I can relate so much to Nietzsche’s story. I have often chosen isolation over the company of others. I have questioned the existence of God. And I have felt the intense sadness that comes as a result of a complete lack of purpose and meaning in my life. I spent a lot of my life trying to will myself into happiness. I thought I just wasn’t trying hard enough or I wasn’t smart enough and if I kept pushing myself, eventually I would find the happiness I craved. But my efforts only made me more miserable. I was headed into my own end of madness and ill health weighing 505 pounds and being completely depressed.

It wasn’t until I gave up and surrendered to a higher power that things started to change. When I decided to look for God again instead of keep running away from Him, I started to get my life back. It is an ongoing practice, but every day gets a little better. The world feels more alive. The wonder and magic I had as a kid is coming back. I hear music differently. I taste food differently. My interests are growing daily. I am becoming the man I have always wanted to be and that only started happening when I chose God over myself.

The true birth of tragedy

The true birth of tragedy happens when a man or woman gives up on God. That decision is a pivotal moment in anyone’s life, whether we want to admit it or not. We are all born with an innate sense of a higher power. We find it in our parents first. But we sense it all around us as well. As we get older and life pushes us around a little, we start to get bitter and cynical.

If we don’t fight off this cynicism, we let it get the best of us and we turn our backs on what is true in our life. We start looking for our own answers. We start believing we don’t need anyone, we can do this alone. That is when we give up on our lives and begin to live the rest of it in tragedy. It’s a truly sad story that keeps repeating over and over again throughout history.

If you want a life of peace and joy, it truly does exist. But you have to be willing to let go and willing to let yourself believe again in order to find it.

What Is Really Important To You?

What is really important to you?

Do you ever get really confused about life sometimes?

I get confused all the time. I let life overwhelm me and I literally forget what I’m doing. I forget the point of all this life stuff and I start focusing on things that don’t really matter.

I get distracted and stressed. Once I am stressed, I tend to focus on the stress which brings more of it into my life. The next thing I know I am depressed or bored and I don’t want to do anything but sit around and watch Netflix.

And as I sit there watching a show I am barely interested in, I can’t help but think…

What happened? How did I get here so fast?

Money is a subject that can do that to me. Don’t get me wrong, I love money, but I can get so caught up in how I am going to make my next $100 that I lose sight of the important stuff. I can focus really quickly on what I don’t have. How am I going to pay my bills? What if I can’t make enough money? I can lose my mind pretty quick when it comes to money.

Boredom is another thing that overtakes me often. Even when I am busy, I get bored. And then I start to focus on my boredom. That focus becomes a pity party. And before I know it, I feel lost again.

Loneliness is a common culprit as well. When I feel lonely, I can find myself going down the rabbit hole of isolation. You would think that when I feel lonely my instinct would be to reach out to friends, but it is actually the opposite. My instinct is to pull away from people, embrace the loneliness and try to find comfort in it.

Money, boredom, loneliness and so many other things become daily distractions for me. They confuse me. They pull me away from the life God wants me to live.

My point here is not to say that any of these things are bad. Sometimes you need to feel bored or lonely. It’s ok. It’s part of being human.

My point is to state that when I feel lost or confused, I need to remember what is important to me. I need to remind myself daily of the things that bring hope and joy into my life. The things that I feel called to do. The things that ring true with the life that God wants me to live.

So I made a list.

This may seem silly to some, but it is something I really needed to do. I sat down and made a list of all the things that are important to me. What are the things that give me life? What are the things that I am forgetting to do? What are the things that I need to spend more time doing?

After I made my list, I printed it out and put it up on my wall. I need to see this list every day. I need to be reminded of what it is I am supposed to be doing. When I get confused, all I have to do is look at my wall and I am reminded of what is really important in my life.

So what made the list? Here it is…

What Is Really Important To Me

My list of what is really important to me

My list of what is really important to me

  1. Prayer and meditation

  2. Exercise

  3. Getting outside

  4. Serving

  5. Giving

  6. Community

  7. Friends

  8. Family

  9. Education

  10. The arts

  11. My dog

  12. Phone calls

  13. Meetings

  14. Church

  15. Sunrises and sunsets

  16. Travel

  17. Exploring my city

Simple. But life-changing.

I can’t tell you how much peace and joy this list gives me. It is a simple exercise but it restores hope in me to look at it. It is a list of what seem like obvious things, but when life gets crazy, I forget to do these things.

Having this list up on my wall gives me something I can do when I am feeling lost. I know I can go to my wall, stare at this list, find something to do and go out and do it.

I am sure this list will evolve with time. I will think of new things to put up there and always be adding to the list. But this list right here gives me a great place to start. Making time for these things sounds like the kind of life I want to live.

So how about you? What is on your list? If you struggle with feeling lost or confused like I do, I would highly recommend making a list and sticking it up on your wall. What have you got to lose?

Leave me a comment and share what is important to you. Who knows, I might have to add some of your suggestions to my list too!

What Is The Purpose Of Life?

What is the purpose of life?

I spend most of my time just trying to get through the day. I am in my own head constantly. Thinking about me and what I need to do to be happy today.

What am I going to eat today? What am I going to do for fun today? How am I going to deal with life today?

It’s all about me. No wonder I feel a lot of misery on these days. That’s the irony of it all. I spend so much time trying to figure out how to make myself happy that it makes me miserable.

And who says God doesn’t have a sense of humor?

What’s the answer then? I mean, don’t we all want to be happy? Isn’t that a valid pursuit? Isn’t that what life is all about?

When I was at COR - the food recovery retreat that saved my life - one of the speakers said something that changed my life. He said…

“We were made to love others. That is the root of happiness.”

That’s it! The thing I have been looking for all my life. I had been so involved in myself and so wrapped up in my addictions that I didn’t have anything left to give to others. I was blocked off from God because I was numbing everything out with food and alcohol. And then because I felt disconnected from God, I also felt disconnected from people. I felt isolated and alone. And this led to misery.

I found my answer at COR - I need to love other people more.

So if I have the answer, why am I still struggling? Sure I am not in the food anymore and I quit drinking over 3 years ago, but I still struggle with feeling that connection with people. I still feel lonely and isolated a lot. What’s up with that? I thought I was fixed?!

It turns out that we are never fixed, but we do get better.

I can honestly say that my relationships are so much better today than they were a few years ago and that is all because of recovery. I can honestly say that I see God working in my life every day and that is all because of recovery. I have a hope that I never had before and that is, yep you got it, all because of recovery.

I’m healing but I’m not healed. There’s a difference. And I don’t think any of us ever become fully healed. But there is so much peace and joy that comes from the healing. I truly have to remember to stay in the present and be thankful for where I’m at today. It’s light-years away from where I was.

And when it comes to people, I need to keep working on giving of myself more. I give in a lot of ways, but I still can be super selfish. I need to remember that we are here to love each other. True happiness comes from that connection with people. I need people. I need you. And I want you to know that I’m glad you are in my life.

If we believe the purpose of life is to find happiness then that means the purpose of life is to love each other.

That is a pretty great purpose that I can get behind. It takes patience and it takes generosity. I have to be willing to give all that has been given to me. And by giving I get another day.

Generosity
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